10 Lessons on Waiting for the Right Person God Has Planned for You
While dating advice often leans on quick fixes and shortcuts, Pastor Vlad Savchuk of HungryGen Ministries offers a refreshing, grounded perspective for singles seeking a spouse.
His message is clear: it’s worth the wait.
Drawing wisdom from the first chapters of Genesis, Savchuk lays out a blueprint for preparing for a godly relationship—and it starts long before you meet “the one.”
1. You Are Ready to Date When You Don’t Need To
“You have to be so lost in God that the person has to look for God to find you.” Before anything else, your relationship with God should be your foundation. “Your relationship with God will satisfy you while all other relationships, they will magnify you.”
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2. Find Your Mission Before You Find Your Mate
“You’re ready for marriage when you have found your mission, found a job.” Citing Genesis 2:15, Savchuk points out that Adam was given work before he was given Eve. “Before there is honey, there has to be money.”
3. Date with the Intent to Marry
“Dating with no intent to marry is like going to the grocery store with no money. You will either leave unhappy or take something that is not yours.” Savchuk stresses that dating isn’t for fun—it’s for finding a life partner.
4. Be Patient—Don’t Settle Out of Desperation
“You will either wait for God to bring the right person or you will wait for God to change the person you found due to impatience.” Savchuk warns against rushing into relationships just to fill a void. “Don’t birth an Ishmael out of impatience.”
5. Stop Comparing Your Journey to Others
“Don’t compare your story with someone else’s success.” Seeing friends get married or start relationships can be tough, but comparison leads to coveting, which leads to impatience. “God is writing your love story, don’t steal His pen.”
6. Be at the Right ‘Well’
“Isaac met his wife at a well, Jacob met his wife at a well, Moses met his wife at the well.” Savchuk encourages singles to be in the right environments—church, small groups, mission trips—where they can meet someone who shares their faith. “Just because someone is in church doesn’t mean they’re in Christ.”
7. Stay Active in Community, Not Isolation
“Don’t dwell in the wilderness, don’t waste your waiting period by going to clubs.” Instead of isolating yourself or seeking love in the wrong places, stay connected to your community and serve in your local church.
8. Recognize the Difference Between God’s Blessing and the Devil’s Bait
“Before sometimes God sends someone, the devil will send a distraction.” Savchuk cautions singles to discern whether a relationship is truly from God or just a temporary fix for loneliness.
9. Be Honest About Your Intentions
“Am I doing this because I’m desperate and lonely? Am I doing this because I’m horny? Or am I doing this because there’s God’s grace on it, there’s God’s peace in it?” Self-reflection is key to understanding your true motivations for dating.
10. Stay Grounded and Content in God
“Even if He does not [bring someone], stay content. Stay grounded and focus on Him.” Savchuk reminds singles that their identity and fulfillment should come from God, not from a relationship.
Pastor Savchuk’s message isn’t just about waiting for the right person—it’s about becoming the right person. By focusing on faith, purpose and patience, singles can trust that God’s timing will bring the right person into their lives. And even if that doesn’t happen on your timeline, you’ll find fulfillment in the journey itself.
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James Lasher is staff writer for Charisma Media.
