The Link Between America’s Loneliness Epidemic and Pornography

Over the past several years, there has been a surge in people who experience loneliness. As it continues to grow, another epidemic continues to be on the rise—pornography. Research has shown that loneliness is one of the main factors in porn addiction.

According to Sam Guzman, the co-author of Transformed by Beauty, “Research shows rates of loneliness among adults have doubled from 20% to 40% since the 1980s. And according to the General Social Survey, an annual study of societal conditions in the United States, the average American has not a single close friend to confide in or rely on in a crisis. Not one.”

And the problem is not just in America. In Britain, for example, 9 million people said they frequently or always feel lonely. The British government even created the position of Minister for Loneliness to begin to address the issue.

Recent research by Cigna found that:

• Nearly half of Americans report sometimes or always feeling alone (46%) or left out (47%).
• One in four Americans (27%) rarely or never feel as though there are people who really understand them.
• Two in five Americans sometimes or always feel that their relationships are not meaningful (43%) and that they are isolated from others (43%).
• One in five people report they rarely or never feel close to people (20 %) or feel like there are people they can talk to (18%).
• Generation Z (adults ages 18-22) is the loneliest generation.

A Link Between Loneliness And Porn Usage

Research is showing that loneliness and porn usage have a definite connection.

Guzman noted,

“A recent study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy reported a strong positive association between loneliness and pornography use. Put simply, if you’re chronically lonely, you’re far more likely to use porn on a regular basis.”

A YouGov survey found that “Millennials are more likely than older generations to report that they have no acquaintances (25% of Millennials say this is the case), no friends (22%), no close friends (27%) and no best friends (30%).”

But loneliness is not just a problem for younger men and women.

According to Tim Rollins, a research director at Stop Procrastinating, “Our survey shows that internet pornography is now affecting every generation. Older men are either turning to pornography out of loneliness or because they have access to it through the internet. But there is evidence that Internet pornography is fueling loneliness and depression.”

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Is Porn a Cause of Loneliness for Singles?

Porn can trap a single man or woman into an ongoing cycle of loneliness. This can keep them from developing healthy relationships with their friends, family, and people in general.

Butler explained, “The mind fantasizes and biologically the sexual system tricks the brain into imagining it’s having a relationship experience and can thus mask loneliness—but only temporarily. In this way, pornography exploits the sexual system but only tricks the brain for a while. The user can’t escape the fact that when the experience is over, they’re still alone in an empty room.”

“So, when sexual intoxication wears off, the experience may only end up excavating a deeper emptiness—a setup for a vicious cycle. We hypothesize that this experience could create the potential for getting trapped in the short-term, feel-good escape of pornography joined with long-term loneliness.”

You may be using pornography to medicate pain from your childhood. Or maybe you have deep emotional trauma that makes you try to avoid personal interaction. Using porn to avoid relationships that may add more pain to your life will not relieve the hurt you feel.

Michele Langmead wrote for Focus on the Family that

“We can’t go back to childhood to reclaim the love we missed out on, but that doesn’t mean the emptiness can’t be filled and the losses restored. Even though we can’t change the way we were raised, there is hope for healing.”

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Porn Leads To Isolation

Loneliness and pornography create an unhealthy cycle that can feel almost impossible to break free from. A guy turns to pornography to soothe his loneliness and feels worthless as a result, which makes it even less likely that he will pursue a relationship.

Paul Loosemore, MA PLPC, the author of 21 Movements Towards Life, wrote, “When pleasure, motivation and relational interest are low, isolation is a common experience. Furthermore, a porn addiction can cause people to spend countless hours searching for porn in secret. Unfortunately, the isolation that is commonly built also serves to create further despair and negative experiences.”

It is vital to get connected to a small group of godly men who know first hand about struggling with porn. They will provide you with support and encouragement. Furthermore, they will not judge you because they know how intense the battle is.

“Accountability will help end isolation and provide support for changing behaviors. Setting up boundaries, removing access and refraining from sex will allow the brain’s reward pathway to slowly recalibrate,” said Loosemore.

“Coupling relational growth and rewiring the brain is a powerful practice because relationships can become satisfying and sustaining. Eventually, sex can be enjoyed again within the realms of its intended function.”

You Can Be Free

How do you begin to experience the same healing others have found? By boldly stepping out of your lonely comfort zone and seeking the help of other men.

Samuel James, who serves on the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, said,

“You are not too far gone, no matter how addicted you may be or how many people have been hurt by your sin. The gospel invites you to come to God, not so He can congratulate you or condemn you, but that He might adopt you.”

“God alone can take your loneliness and turn it into something beautiful, for His glory and your good, ” said Ashley Chesnut of The Church at Brook Hills. “But this requires entrusting your loneliness to Him—leaning into His character and trusting His sufficiency. So the next time loneliness hits, bring it to your Savior and Friend, confident that He cares for you.”

A great way to win your battle with porn is through the Conquer Series. Combining scripture and science, this 12-DVD study lays the foundation for healing. In addition to discussing sexual addiction, it also looks at the factors that frequently contribute to the struggle. To date, it’s helped more than one million men in over 80 countries start their journey to freedom.

Proof That it Does Work

Individuals, both male and female, are now starting to form healthy relationships as a result of the Conquer Series. Those who are single report experiencing renewed hope. In some instances, couples have reported that the Conquer Series has played a key role in healing their broken relationship.

Jay, a Conquer Group leader in Michigan, contacted us to share his experience. “In my first group, one young man had a fiancee who said if he did not get help, she would not marry him. They were married last September.”

David in Austin, Texas, wrote,

“I have been part of many many men’s groups and at least three other purity groups. There was a time many years ago that I truly believed I could never be free. Well that was/is a lie! I joined a local group to watch the Conquer Series to stay free, get more free and help those still in bondage. There is nothing else like this program!”

Are you ready to begin your journey to lasting freedom?

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